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Reality is subjective and created by a combination of your current beliefs and past relationships and experiences. We only experience absolute reality about %20 of our waking lives.
The other %80 of the time we are constructing our realities from the
inside out. Your attitude toward yourself, the one that has been
internalized from early caregivers is then what becomes projected and
experienced in the external world. If you were poorly treated or
disrespected as a child, you will find yourself in this masochistic
position with friends and parteners. From this perspective, the best
way to improve your relationships with others is to heal your own core
wounds and feelings about yourself. Think about what this means as far
as your relationships are concerned. When you experience your friend
or partner in a negative way, take a look at how your experience of
this person might reflect earlier relationships with primary
caretakers. If you are unable to trust a loved one and feel safe in
the relationship, your inability to trust may be related to early
relationships that color your current experience. Another possibility
is that you might find yourself attracted to people that affirm your
belief and feelings that people cannot be trusted in the first place.
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